Saturday, March 26, 2011

Beauty is soul-deep

I am so excited to be "playing" starting on April fool's day in the 21 Secrets-an art journal playground e-course where 21 superbly creative women will be sharing mixed media techniques, including my most favourited artists momma of all time- Tamora Lapote who blogs here. She is soulful, artistic, authentic, and just plain beautiful, in heart, mind and spirit. This is my second e-course to date since Kelly Rae's Taking Flight e-course and I'm so looking forward to it I wish I could fast forward time. If only I have superpowers...

Above are Tam's artwork and I love how she advocates the notion and importance of using art for healing ourselves. I myself believe so much in the inherent power for self-expression and self-discovery in art and I am deeply attracted to her art. I love her because not only does she advocate art for healing heart, her Willowing art network provides a space for creative souls like myself to showcase my works, connect with other women and getting in touch with them.

If you're an artist and you are interested do check out Willowing's art network at the top right corner of my sidebar.

I was contemplating about the intrinsic definition and value of beauty and what beauty means to me since eons ago. How women like myself is forever struggling to achieve some very elusive ideals standard of beauty to fit in, or to gain approval from this society. How I need to lose 10 more pounds, dye my hair this colour, wear dress with cuts that flatter my curves. It's great to accentuate your assets, and there's nothing wrong with wanting to be beautiful because it's a very natural impulse of being human. Yet when physical beauty becomes the only obsession is when things get boring.

There are those pretty women who people steal looks when she enters into the walkway, of a restaurant, a pub, a party. But when she starts a conversation all she talks is about herself, and in being so Big she becomes small in her self-absorption. And her beauty is just skin deep, or actually, skin shallow.

And then there are women who are beautiful, women who love the way they look and make sure they give positive impression, women who are in touch with themselves and who takes care of themselves. Women who are pretty yet humble about it, who are not particularly self-conscious, who doesn't fret about looks so much, who doesn't think about themselves all the time, but who cares about people, who reaches out to touch hearts, and who serves. Instead of wanting and needing to be served or worshipped because they're born beautiful. They extend their hands out to connect authentically.

Their beauty has nothing much to do about having a to-die-for gorgeous face and figure, their beauty has everything to do with grace, and the capacity of love they are able to receive and return. I am lucky to know some beautiful women who are this genuine in heart and soul, some of them friends, some of them mentors, many of them just plain inspiration.

I will be lying to you if you think I am not trying hard to lose my excess weight in order to look good. I am always on some kind of diet. I am still not very happy about my body. I love being feminine and girly, I love trying out new shades of make up that flatters my skin and makes my eyes look larger. I want to be beautiful and feel beautiful. Yet I want to define beauty on my own terms. Beauty that is rooted in compassion, kindness, wisdom, humility, love.

I know some very beautiful women in real life. But in blogland and within the women artists' circle online, I see profound beauty in so many because you share your wisdom, your stories, your doubts and vulnerabilities. And I have so much gratitude for all of you because not only do you share your art, you also share your heart and you reach out to comfort and encourage kindred spirit like myself!So this is a real and heartfelt Thank You to all you beautiful souls out there!


  1. Dearest Eva-what an absolutely beautiful and haert warming post you wrote here!! I think it's horrible that us women (the world over) are judged by how we look! Seriously..what's up with that??? You are beautiful just the way you are Eva...I think it's our heart and soul that makes us SHINE..The women who are beautiful to me are...Dr. Estes, Mary Oliver, Michelle Obama, Oprah...Maya Angelou and all of us who share ourSELVES in an authentic way. Beauty is in our the way we live. XXX

  2. I always love reading your blog, Eva ! Hope you know that =) You are also already way too beautiful Diva ! Maybe all you need to do now is to just let it shine ! effortlessly ! because you already have that beauty in your soul ! surrender and let it shine !! :D
    So exciting to see you at 21 course.. I can't wait either. Oh and the number prompts.. oh man I see so so many.. 333, 1234, X88 just all patterns.. I thought my brain finally corrupted or something, but now I enjoy seeing those.. but keep it to myself =)
    Hope you're having a wonderful week ! xoxoxo

  3. Dearest sweet eva, it's wonderful to get back in the swing of things on blogland. This is absolutely such a beautiful and heart-warming post. Your new e-couse sounds wonderful and thanks so much for sharing Tam's artwork...she is just so inspiring.
    I also wanted you to know that you are a beautiful girl inside out...truly! Have a lovely merry happy weekend and love to you!


  4. Dear Eva, What a heartfelt post! The e-course sounds fantastic and I hope you have lots of fun and learn heaps!! Looking forward to reading about it on your blog. I love Tam as well and just invested in a DVD of one of her courses. The value of beauty is an interesting topic. I think that society's standards of beauty are very narrow so don't let it influence you. You don't have to fit in to what society expects. Just focus on being yourself and creating your own style. You are a truly beautiful person Eva!! Wini xo


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